07-09-2008, 01:00 PM
The secrets of personal success
Presently, when business requires you to do more and more things and life becomes more hectic, you tend to do everything faster. But if you are not cautious enough, in pursuing this, your mind may be invaded with mixed thoughts related to various activities. This habit might take possession of your mind in a subtle way. For example, it may start with your desire to please the boss, who puts a constant pressure on you to do a lot of things. But on this route you may achieve an opposite result. By mixing up your thoughts you can not be productive. And so by trying to please the boss, you disappoint him. More than that, this may hold you back from raising your confidence level and forging your character. How harmful is this habit ? Well, it might determine your success or failure in life. The concept of separating activities, developed in this article will show you how to deal with this challenge.
Many people mistakenly think that if they will deal with a lot of activities at the same time they will achieve more. But very often all they get is just an illusion of doing a lot of things. The key to dealing with this problem is to develop a special skill – the skill of thinking about each activity separately.
Have you ever wondered why people with the same abilities as you are more successful at their job ? You may be surprised to find out that the reason for their success is not the talent, but the ability to separate activities and thoughts related to them. Yes, the ability to stay focused on one activity at a time is crucial for success. The important thing is to not allow other thoughts unrelated to the current activity to penetrate the mind. It’s not an easy thing to do because we are constantly bombarded with various other ideas, thoughts, influences etc.
Why is the mixing up of thoughts related to different activities unproductive ? First of all, by mixing up your thoughts you confuse the issue. The very issue appears to you more complicated than it is in reality. Secondly, confusion triggers worries and worries confuse the situation even more. And thirdly, a person tires faster dealing with a confused and unclear situation. For a tired person the issue seems even more blurred.
Now let’s see how we can grasp the attitude and spirit of separating different activities. Imagine that you meet a bear in the forest. Will you think about other things until you get away from the bear? Will you be trying composing romantic poems in that moment. Quite the opposite: your mind, your emotions will be fully involved in “the activity” of running away. All your thoughts will be related to this one “activity”. And you will not allow even a single thought about anything else until you finish “the job” at hand. This is, obviously, an extreme situation. But you can achieve similar results in separating your thoughts in any other activity.
Let’s take, for instance, the game of playing tennis. If you allow thoughts, not related to the game, to take possession of your mind, your performance will go down dramatically. This is especially noticeable in a tight game between equally skilled opponents. Tennis players are even advised to focus only on the point they are playing and not think about the previous or next point! This advise could be worded as: “Be in the moment. Live the moment. "
The same is true at your work place. The advice here is sound: “Be in the activity. Live the activity”. If you want to be more efficient at your job, you need to apply the skill of separating your thoughts related to different activities. If you lack this skill, don’t get discouraged. It could be developed. It just requires time, discipline and practice. Tennis players work a lot on this skill in order to achieve higher results. If this is important in the game of tennis, it is even more important in the activity, which determines your job promotion.
Have you ever given a public talk and felt that “you were not in the talk” or you were not “living” the talk? If you felt so, than know that this was “a blow” given to you, due to the fact that you did not separate fully your activity from other thoughts. Not being in the talk and not living fully the talk robs you of the joy of connection with inner self and with the audience. And the reverse is true - when you are in the talk and live it, you experience a tremendous joy of self-expression. The same is true about any other creative activity.
We all wish to be reasonable and wise. The skill of separating our activities has a lot to do with this desire. For example, if you stay focused enough time on one issue, you begin to see different facets of it more clearly. It’s similar to the situation when you visit for the first time a town and gradually you begin to discern its main streets, squares etc. If you don’t allow enough time for a focused observation, you will not be able to form a clear picture of the object under observation. The same is true with any complicated problem or project you are undertaking. You shouldn’t panic when faced with a complicated issue. First think: have you given enough time to the issue and have you blocked out any other activities and thoughts? The criteria of giving an issue enough time is determined by the point at which you are able to break down the problem into it’s components, and after that to make the synthesis of it. If you do this you may congratulate yourself with a day spent reasonably.
There is another aspect of the issue – the aspect of your character and personality. How are you going to take responsibility for the job, be fully involved, manifest interest, care for the job and have the inner resolve to finish it, if you mix up other activities? Besides, mixing up your thoughts on different activities is the way of “dissipating” or “losing” your personality.
Let’s now summarize the impact of the approach of separating different activities and see what difference it will make in your life. It will remove the confusion of issues you are dealing with and related worries. It will enable you to connect with enough time to penetrate deep into your problem. You will be in the activity, and you will live the activity. You will raise the efficiency of your work, thus increasing your chances of fully realizing your abilities. You will gain control over your work, projects etc. It will help you to further strengthen your character and personality. And, to some degree, you will be able to shape your future. You will maintain (not lose!) your confidence in the fact that your mind is able to produce ideas, which bring results. You will feel an intellectual and emotional boost, - the joy of self-expression. This joy will make you to feel more in control, enthusiastic and happy.
Thus, the concept of separating activities is indispensable for your success. Stay the course of this attitude and it will not only “save you from the bear” in any of your activities, but it will also carry you to the desired results you dreamt about for a long time.
This article is written by Mr. Igor Ciobanu
Presently, when business requires you to do more and more things and life becomes more hectic, you tend to do everything faster. But if you are not cautious enough, in pursuing this, your mind may be invaded with mixed thoughts related to various activities. This habit might take possession of your mind in a subtle way. For example, it may start with your desire to please the boss, who puts a constant pressure on you to do a lot of things. But on this route you may achieve an opposite result. By mixing up your thoughts you can not be productive. And so by trying to please the boss, you disappoint him. More than that, this may hold you back from raising your confidence level and forging your character. How harmful is this habit ? Well, it might determine your success or failure in life. The concept of separating activities, developed in this article will show you how to deal with this challenge.
Many people mistakenly think that if they will deal with a lot of activities at the same time they will achieve more. But very often all they get is just an illusion of doing a lot of things. The key to dealing with this problem is to develop a special skill – the skill of thinking about each activity separately.
Have you ever wondered why people with the same abilities as you are more successful at their job ? You may be surprised to find out that the reason for their success is not the talent, but the ability to separate activities and thoughts related to them. Yes, the ability to stay focused on one activity at a time is crucial for success. The important thing is to not allow other thoughts unrelated to the current activity to penetrate the mind. It’s not an easy thing to do because we are constantly bombarded with various other ideas, thoughts, influences etc.
Why is the mixing up of thoughts related to different activities unproductive ? First of all, by mixing up your thoughts you confuse the issue. The very issue appears to you more complicated than it is in reality. Secondly, confusion triggers worries and worries confuse the situation even more. And thirdly, a person tires faster dealing with a confused and unclear situation. For a tired person the issue seems even more blurred.
Now let’s see how we can grasp the attitude and spirit of separating different activities. Imagine that you meet a bear in the forest. Will you think about other things until you get away from the bear? Will you be trying composing romantic poems in that moment. Quite the opposite: your mind, your emotions will be fully involved in “the activity” of running away. All your thoughts will be related to this one “activity”. And you will not allow even a single thought about anything else until you finish “the job” at hand. This is, obviously, an extreme situation. But you can achieve similar results in separating your thoughts in any other activity.
Let’s take, for instance, the game of playing tennis. If you allow thoughts, not related to the game, to take possession of your mind, your performance will go down dramatically. This is especially noticeable in a tight game between equally skilled opponents. Tennis players are even advised to focus only on the point they are playing and not think about the previous or next point! This advise could be worded as: “Be in the moment. Live the moment. "
The same is true at your work place. The advice here is sound: “Be in the activity. Live the activity”. If you want to be more efficient at your job, you need to apply the skill of separating your thoughts related to different activities. If you lack this skill, don’t get discouraged. It could be developed. It just requires time, discipline and practice. Tennis players work a lot on this skill in order to achieve higher results. If this is important in the game of tennis, it is even more important in the activity, which determines your job promotion.
Have you ever given a public talk and felt that “you were not in the talk” or you were not “living” the talk? If you felt so, than know that this was “a blow” given to you, due to the fact that you did not separate fully your activity from other thoughts. Not being in the talk and not living fully the talk robs you of the joy of connection with inner self and with the audience. And the reverse is true - when you are in the talk and live it, you experience a tremendous joy of self-expression. The same is true about any other creative activity.
We all wish to be reasonable and wise. The skill of separating our activities has a lot to do with this desire. For example, if you stay focused enough time on one issue, you begin to see different facets of it more clearly. It’s similar to the situation when you visit for the first time a town and gradually you begin to discern its main streets, squares etc. If you don’t allow enough time for a focused observation, you will not be able to form a clear picture of the object under observation. The same is true with any complicated problem or project you are undertaking. You shouldn’t panic when faced with a complicated issue. First think: have you given enough time to the issue and have you blocked out any other activities and thoughts? The criteria of giving an issue enough time is determined by the point at which you are able to break down the problem into it’s components, and after that to make the synthesis of it. If you do this you may congratulate yourself with a day spent reasonably.
There is another aspect of the issue – the aspect of your character and personality. How are you going to take responsibility for the job, be fully involved, manifest interest, care for the job and have the inner resolve to finish it, if you mix up other activities? Besides, mixing up your thoughts on different activities is the way of “dissipating” or “losing” your personality.
Let’s now summarize the impact of the approach of separating different activities and see what difference it will make in your life. It will remove the confusion of issues you are dealing with and related worries. It will enable you to connect with enough time to penetrate deep into your problem. You will be in the activity, and you will live the activity. You will raise the efficiency of your work, thus increasing your chances of fully realizing your abilities. You will gain control over your work, projects etc. It will help you to further strengthen your character and personality. And, to some degree, you will be able to shape your future. You will maintain (not lose!) your confidence in the fact that your mind is able to produce ideas, which bring results. You will feel an intellectual and emotional boost, - the joy of self-expression. This joy will make you to feel more in control, enthusiastic and happy.
Thus, the concept of separating activities is indispensable for your success. Stay the course of this attitude and it will not only “save you from the bear” in any of your activities, but it will also carry you to the desired results you dreamt about for a long time.
This article is written by Mr. Igor Ciobanu