08-06-2008, 12:12 PM
I will tell you a brief story about a high profile person, - the manager of a firm. He was smart enough, but not wiser than one of his assistants. So this manager adopted a strategy against his assistant. He always treated him with an air of superiority and made use of any opportunity to intimidate him. The question is:”Why he did so?” One person gave the following explanation to this situation, talking about himself: “Give me a hard time, intimidate me and you will get a fool in front of you. But treat me with peace, respect and consideration and you will have a wise person in front of you”. The answer is obvious: the manager didn’t want to admit the thought that other person was wiser than he was. And he wanted to make everyone in his firm believe that he was the wisest man.
So how to stop being intimidated by others? The answer is: try to calm yourself before meeting with a person-victimizer. Be determined to react with full calmness. If your calmness will throw the oppressor out of balance repeatedly, he might not enjoy the process. Train yourself in advance not to pick up other people’s intimidating behavior. Respond to intimidating attacks with absolute calmness. And you have good reasons for doing this. Why? Because the victimizer inflicts on his nervous system regular blows without realizing the future consequences.
So how to stop being intimidated by others? The answer is: try to calm yourself before meeting with a person-victimizer. Be determined to react with full calmness. If your calmness will throw the oppressor out of balance repeatedly, he might not enjoy the process. Train yourself in advance not to pick up other people’s intimidating behavior. Respond to intimidating attacks with absolute calmness. And you have good reasons for doing this. Why? Because the victimizer inflicts on his nervous system regular blows without realizing the future consequences.