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Effects Of Divorce On Children ?? - colin - 12-05-2009
Hello
1) Divorce Effects On Children-Security: Parents aren't aware of it, but a child's whole sense of the World is based on what they experience of their parents from the moment of conception. There are other influences, but the most profound influence is that of the parents' behavior toward each other. A child is secure if the parents are mature, loving and considerate toward each other. The child is insecure if the parents are immature, spiteful, selfish and argumentative toward each other. The child is suffering traumatic stress if the parents are violent or threatening toward each other. Even at that point, if the parents reach resolution and grow toward mature, loving behavior, the child will overcome their insecurity. If the parents divorce, it teaches the child that there is no stable, secure, loving place. One child I know, after years, overcame great odds to love and trust his step-mom...shortly thereafter...another divorce. When confronted as to why he wasn't supportive of a new relationship, he told his father, "She's just going to leave."
2) Divorce Effects On Children-Self-Worth: Would I be stretching things to say that there has never been a divorce where children were involved that the children weren't a major topic for argument? Parents who divorce have a dysfunctional relationship, but that's not what the children see. They can't remove themselves emotionally and see their family objectively. Instead, they feel an immense hurt and immense fear of what's happening to their World. Every time their name comes up, they feel they are the cause of the divorce. No matter how "equitable" the custody arrangement is, one or both parents will be more distant from them, deepening their feeling that they, somehow, are the reason the parent is gone. There is no way they can understand why they're not to blame, no matter how much they're told.
3) Divorce Effects On Children-Vulnerability: Because of their insecurity and low self-esteem, children of divorce are highly vulnerable. Since their world seems to be built on shifting sand, they easily attach themselves to anyone offering a consistent standard of behavior.
Thanks for reading
Re: Effects Of Divorce On Children ?? - Big_Becka - 12-07-2009
I think this is an over-generalisation, Colin. When my parents divorced, it was the happiest day of my life! I know many children of divorced parents, and none of us suffer insecurity or low self-esteem.
Any trauma can make a child insecure and vulnerable. A divorce can be happy if the child knows it is loved and the parents continue to support him/her. The problem comes when a parent abandons the child - assuming the child loved the parent.
And I do not approve of Manchester Escorts :fi
Re: Effects Of Divorce On Children ?? - Laurentine - 12-08-2009
It is not a secret that children reflect all emotions and acts of their parents,parents are authority for children, particularly in adolescence.Parents should be wise enough to explaine the situation,why it happens,and explaine that he is not the cause of divorce in any case.Child need to feel that he is loved from both the side,he will understand everything in tha case his rights wouldn't be limited.Parents should abstain from scandals in presence of child.Every situation can be resolved peacefully)))
Re: Effects Of Divorce On Children ?? - Lorry - 12-15-2009
Hi to all,
When parents decide to divorce they should assume the responsibility that their child will suffer because of that, whatever they will tell or explain him/her. Children will not consider that he/she is the reason of their divorce but for him/her it will be very difficult with just one parent, whatever if another one will visit it very often.