ARE YOU IN THE HURRY TO DISAGREE?

[euigorwithyou]

This happened during a group discussion. Mary, a young woman confronted the group’s common opinion. She monopolized the discussion expressing her disagreement. But Natalie, another young lady, quite amazingly for everyone else, started to support Mary: “I see what you mean. You are right here.” In fact, Natalie was trying to understand the Mary’s line of thought. If she would have found the smallest hint of reasoning in Mary’s argument, she would begin agreeing with those points, even though the whole Mary’s argument was quite a mess logically.
But due to Natalie’s efforts the discussion followed up peacefully. Nobody feelings were hurt. At the end everyone was happy with it. Instead of demolishing Mary’s argument Natalie looked for some common sense in Mary’s argumentation. And this was enough for her to praise Mary’s effort. So, if you are in the hurry to disagree with anyone, may be you will think about the end result of it. Should you view any discussion as a battle field, just because someone is logically incoherent?

[Jfish]

I totally agree. Many people just can't explain their thoughts in the right order or can't find the right words. There are even genius people that have amazing thoughts and they just don't have the skills to communicate thees thoughts to others.
So hurrying to disagree with such people would make you miss the opportunity to understand new things.

[Benn]

In the business school I was taught to always listen one's thoughts to the end. If you hasten to say something by interrupting a person, you may not understand the full argument and thereby create tensions.
An example, a discussion
- I find this project weak for... (interrupted)
- No way, I have been working on it so much time and you say it's weak!?

The point is that the first person wanted to say "I find this project weak for our competitors, and best for us "

[Karl.in.eu]

This is my problem, and I can't fix it. I don't know why