12-05-2009, 07:33 AM
Hello
If you cannot communicate there is a problem. A lot of relationship problems occur because the 2 parties cannot talk to each other. The way you talk or don’t talk to someone can cause great distress and tension. You find that one party may be aggressive and intrusive in their communication style causing the other party to withdraw or refusing to talk altogether. Some people try to get the problem solved my using emotions such anger or sadness as a weapon of manipulation against the other person. Have you ever heard the expression, turn off the waterworks or I can’t take it when you cry. Well that is exactly what the other person does to generate a response. Some people use name-calling and insults to describe the person instead of discussing their problematic behavior. If this is where your relationship problems stem from try these things. The two parties have to learn to improve their communication skills by first off taking a breath before speaking. Waiting until both can sit down without distraction to discuss the situation. Point out the good points in the relationship first before addressing the relationship problems. Don’t verbally attack your partner use constructive issues for the problems at hand. Try to come up with a solution that satisfies both parties and without putting blame or guilt on one another for the relationship problems.
Another big relationship problem is lack of partner support. This is a real relationship killer. A good relationship is based on give and take and mutual support. If you don’t have this it is very difficult for a relationship to thrive. One thing is to keep in mind both of you have needs and they should be balanced. Relying on your partner for everything may put too much pressure on them and be unrealistic. There are things that you can handle on your own and things you can’t. Explain your needs and expectations in the beginning to avoid arguments, and don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. Cleary explain where and when you need support so you partner knows what you need and let them do the same. Allow for second chances because no one is perfect. If you needs are never met or it is one sided then that is a signal that the problems are very serious.
Thanks for reading
If you cannot communicate there is a problem. A lot of relationship problems occur because the 2 parties cannot talk to each other. The way you talk or don’t talk to someone can cause great distress and tension. You find that one party may be aggressive and intrusive in their communication style causing the other party to withdraw or refusing to talk altogether. Some people try to get the problem solved my using emotions such anger or sadness as a weapon of manipulation against the other person. Have you ever heard the expression, turn off the waterworks or I can’t take it when you cry. Well that is exactly what the other person does to generate a response. Some people use name-calling and insults to describe the person instead of discussing their problematic behavior. If this is where your relationship problems stem from try these things. The two parties have to learn to improve their communication skills by first off taking a breath before speaking. Waiting until both can sit down without distraction to discuss the situation. Point out the good points in the relationship first before addressing the relationship problems. Don’t verbally attack your partner use constructive issues for the problems at hand. Try to come up with a solution that satisfies both parties and without putting blame or guilt on one another for the relationship problems.
Another big relationship problem is lack of partner support. This is a real relationship killer. A good relationship is based on give and take and mutual support. If you don’t have this it is very difficult for a relationship to thrive. One thing is to keep in mind both of you have needs and they should be balanced. Relying on your partner for everything may put too much pressure on them and be unrealistic. There are things that you can handle on your own and things you can’t. Explain your needs and expectations in the beginning to avoid arguments, and don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. Cleary explain where and when you need support so you partner knows what you need and let them do the same. Allow for second chances because no one is perfect. If you needs are never met or it is one sided then that is a signal that the problems are very serious.
Thanks for reading
