11-03-2008, 06:38 AM
If someone falls in your eyes, it might be your fault. Sounds strange, isn’t it? But think about “piling up” or “fishing”, little by little, only negatives in the behavior of one person. In one day, all over sudden, that person will not be “welcomed” any more in your heart. That person could be your co-worker, friend, girl-friend, wife, son, daughter etc.? Why could such a dramatic change happen in your mind? The main cause for this could be that you never have given a thought to assist that person to “rise up” above his/her own faults. His faults were much more “inciting” for your mind, then his good qualities, as a result you kept his shortcomings in your focus.
In order to reverse this “picture”, why not to try to “build up” on his/her unique good qualities. Assist him/her to magnify them to such a degree, that those faults would appear totally insignificant. And you may start with little things, like praising him for what he really does well. Next, you may instill in him the belief and courage, which will prompt him to do even better. The main metamorphose will happen with you: that very person could become an every day source of joy for you, instead of bitter disappointment.
In order to reverse this “picture”, why not to try to “build up” on his/her unique good qualities. Assist him/her to magnify them to such a degree, that those faults would appear totally insignificant. And you may start with little things, like praising him for what he really does well. Next, you may instill in him the belief and courage, which will prompt him to do even better. The main metamorphose will happen with you: that very person could become an every day source of joy for you, instead of bitter disappointment.