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How do you think, what are the reasons that make people look for other love "opportunities"?
Here are my thoughts:
You feel your sexuality is weakening. For proving the contrary, you make a romance with another person.
By chance - it happens that you may cheat on your partners without wanting it. It's like Bruce Willis - not in the right time and not in the right place
Relationship checking - if your partners find out about your second love, your partnership will either break down or become stronger
Marriage crisis - this is an almost unavoidable problem.
Searching for a better "option" - when you achieved many things while your partner didn't, you may want to find another person who would meet your requirements
Curiosity - this appears when one of the partners was not fully satisfied with something by the other partner.
For satisfying the curiosity, you need another person
Desire for gaining experience - if a person had very few partners before marriage, they will want diversity and will look for another person.
Revenge
After an inside family conflict, one of the partner can take their revenge by finding another person.
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I think a couple is jeopardized by the risk of breaking down if the woman got married virgin. The point is that after some years of marriage she will start looking for something more interesting, as her husband will become boring
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In the last years, it is quite often met that women cheat their men just for raising the hierarchy step. That's why, if your wife works in office, be careful and take care of what she is doing.
If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think a cute thing to tell him is "God is crying." And if he asks why God is crying, another cute thing to tell him is "Probably because of something you did."
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Benn Wrote:In the last years, it is quite often met that women cheat their men just for raising the hierarchy step. That's why, if your wife works in office, be careful and take care of what she is doing.
true... there are such unfair managers. They may even use special substances for causing her misbalance and headache, so that she doesn't realize what she's doing.
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Why lovers cheat on each other? Compare this to a man wishing to become a millionaire. He spends lots of effort for this matter, but, does he stop when he earns this million? Of course not, he wants more. So is with the cheating. People want to get married, and when they do, they feel vanity and wish to experience something more, new.
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Im not sure im recalling this correctly but there are considered two main reasons:
one is boredom they want to be challenged, they no longer feel loved
one is for revenge; theyre unhappy (or partner has upset them) with their partner and cheat for revenge
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People who are cheating don't respect neither themselves nor their partner. In a true love this cannot happen. You see, if you have at least a little respect towards your wife or husband, you will never cheat. IMHO unfortunately there are few people of this kind.
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Because we can not resist temptation, we feel pretty strong, we can not control our emotions and desires, of revenge, no reasons.
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Peach Wrote:Because we can not resist temptation, we feel pretty strong, we can not control our emotions and desires, of revenge, no reasons.
because we take advantage of the weakness of others in front of us, because we believe that we will not be caught, because we are not satisfied by the partner!
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Steven Wrote:How do you think, what are the reasons that make people look for other love "opportunities"? I think there are 2 reasons:
1). You didn´t know what you wanted when you met your man/woman.
2). You did know what you wanted when you met your man/woman - but you forgot.
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55° N - 13° E Wrote:You did know what you wanted when you met your man/woman - but you forgot.
How sad ;( ... two people meet, get known, then love each other, and later get to forget this feeling. Why is this happening? why people do not keep the fire of love, but rather pour water to extinguish it ? and still is wail that have no luck in love....
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Laurentine Wrote:55° N - 13° E Wrote:You did know what you wanted when you met your man/woman - but you forgot.
How sad ;( ... two people meet, get known, then love each other, and later get to forget this feeling. Why is this happening? why people do not keep the fire of love, but rather pour water to extinguish it ? and still is wail that have no luck in love.... It is necessasry to remember why you love your man or woman. Most people forget. People take care of their house, their job, their car, their money, their children - but they neglet their relationship. This is a
BIG MISTAKE. ![[Image: cry.gif]](http://www.tiberiumweb.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/cry.gif)
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Laurentine Wrote:How sad ;( ... two people meet, get known, then love each other, and later get to forget this feeling. Why is this happening?
love gradually turns to skill, respect, understanding, devotion, family ... not all are ready for this, not everybody will want it ... and sometimes just disappear without any explanation and didn't see you together with that man.. ...
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Quote:It is necessasry to remember why you love your man or woman. Most people forget. People take care of their house, their job, their car, their money, their children - but they neglet their relationship. This is a
BIG MISTAKE.
is sad but true ... and the saddest is that we are able to find a thousand reasons not to recognize this truth, But we are not able to find even one reason to make us return to the right way...
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Infidelity is a problem facing increasingly more adults, experts even suggesting that this trait is part of human nature and tends to become a very common practice. Statistics showing that 15% of women and 25% of married men have already had an extramarital sexual affair. Specialists consider that infidelity has some warning signs that partners can recognize these signs and may try to resolve the situation, avoiding the appearance of extramarital relations.
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here are some cases when one partner feels that the relationship is no longer similar to its start. The problem is that many couples believe they can independently settle down the matters. However they are wrong. Once you see the dialogue between you don't bring the desired results, you should apply for a specialist's help.
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Specialists consider that any sudden and exaggerated changes are signs of possible infidelity. Women who spend more hours than usual at beauty parlors, who quit wearing jeans in favor to low-cut dresses and short skirts etc. Advice for men: once you see this, don't close your eyes and start controlling the situation.
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Another sign is the sudden appearance of quarrels in a couple. Yet, don't be confused. because such conflict situations occur in 100% of cases. Try showing a good approach against each other and reveal the argued matter in details. Reasonability and consciousness must be the core qualities here.
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In some cases, exxaggeratedly expensive gifts should alarm the partner, as it is just an attempt to cover infidelity. Precious bracelets, earrings or rings - all these can make the person believe he is really loved, this is exactly what the other partner is aiming. Therefore you'll have to choose between money and love.
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Pay attention to your partener's friends/acquaintances. Their attitude may tell you plenty of things: if earlier they were kind and friendly and now they are indifferent or rude, this means they already know about their freind's affair and thus you are just a pawn for them. It's a sign of warning.
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Whenever one partner behaves in "a closed way" compared to an earlier period, try to discover what's the reason. For example, he/she could be receiving unknown (to you) phone calls, spend more time on weekends without you. An advice to you is: check the phone call history, you may be surprised.
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If once cheating occured, don't even doubt it will occur soon again. Certainly there are exceptions in this context, however it's a sign of unstable future realtionship. Your partner may deserve just one chance (but it already means we can't fully trust him), however a second chance is inadmissible.
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I think people cheat or look for other opportunities when they lack commitment. It's naive to think that you will find everything you want in someone. Even if you did, it need not last forever because people and situations change. Anyone who's seen the world a bit would know this. However, what holds people together in all odds is the amount of commitment they have to maintain the relationship. If you are looking for other opportunities, it means you decided to break your promise.
All that glitters is gold
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FreeThinker Wrote:I think people cheat or look for other opportunities when they lack commitment. ......... what holds people together in all odds is the amount of commitment they have to maintain the relationship. .....
An extremely mature assesment, Free Thinker. I agree with you 167%. 
Appreciation and discovering new attributes of your mate develops into admiration and reliability. Life is the ability to survive. Just as comradery is formed in war, so can the realationship between man and woman who share difficulties of living form strong bonds. It is often superficial and insincere people who cannot see their man´s/woman´s contributions to the relationship - and so they quit.
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Hello
By chance - it happens that you may cheat on your partners without wanting it. It's like Bruce Willis - not in the right time and not in the right place.
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